Rejection as a springboard

Often times in life we face moments of rejection. Which can lead to feelings of failure and feeling disheartened. But lately I’ve begun to change my perception and perspective of rejection. I’m realising more and more that it actually helps to challenge me to keep going. To keep chasing those dreams in my heart.

Rather than parking up the bus and quitting I’m learning to keep one foot in front of the other. In realisation that those no’s aren’t bad and might not mean no forever just a no right now. Over the years I’ve applied for many jobs and been given many rejection letters. I used to get very disheartened when I received these but these days I take it as a positive that they took the time to reply. That really does speak volumes.

More recently it has helped me to start doing something that I’ve wanted to do since my teens. Photography has been a passion of my for a long time. I’ve begun a freelance photography course. Taking. baby steps to where you want to be is totally okay.

I took some time out to relax this afternoon and did some reading. I’m re-reading a book called Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. Reading it is reminding me how important listening to the creativity with in me is. Also how much fear can stop us in our tracks. We need fear to help us judge danger but it does not need to be in the front giving the directions.

In the past I used to find rejection hard to deal with. Rejection is no longer something that affects my self worth. My value is more than a rejection letter. In applying for a job, course, volunteering you are stepping out into the world.

Daring to be yourself.

This time last year I was not in a good place. I was fearful, scared and at times more sad than I’d ever felt before. I desperately wanted to escape and choosing to stay in that difficult situation was one of the bravest things I’ve done.

I’ve learnt that I’m way more resilient than I give myself credit for. To still speak up for myself even if it doesn’t work out. To still treat those who hurt you well. That every time you offer to do something out of the box you are stepping out into the arena. This way of thinking I’ve been learning from Brene Brown  and her book Daring Greatly. (you can find out more about her by clicking on the link) I’m currently reading another book by her called Braving The Wilderness. Which I need to pick up again.

Lets keep being brave, stepping out into new things. Chasing the things that bring joy. When we are knocked down lets choose to get back up.

Much love,

Carole

I found this quote today which resonated with me.

But more than brave, you have love. And love is brave. – Richard Paul Evans

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Beginnings in February

I’m not one for doing New Years resolutions but this year I have decided to set myself a few goals.

Chiefly to finish my poetry book and get it published is top of the list.

Also to devote more time to reading, learning and all things crafty.

The other day I signed up for a freelance photography diploma which is super exciting. As it’s something I thought about doing in my teens but never did. But I’m so glad I can do it now!

Its okay to chase your dreams one small step at a time.

Signing off for now.

Scribblings (some thoughts)

I haven't written anything in depth for a while on here. I thought it was high time I did.

I'm kind of in between things again. This happens often for me at the moment. When one season is coming to an end and another is waiting to begin. I sometimes find myself getting very restless when this happens and a little impatient. When I need to remember that it's a marathon not a sprint.

Also what might feel like a detour to you. I'm learning that they are just part of the journey. That each moment follows the next and all can be learned from and are spaces to grow.

When I've so many thoughts going through my head. It's hard to find time to process stuff. But when life gets unpredictable I'm learning that I still need to make time for myself. Instead of being stuck in the cycle of work/home/sleep and repeat. I've been stuck in that cycle for too long. It gets me exhausted and it's no way to live.

I'm working at having a life that works for me. Where there is plenty of space to be me. It's no fun spending your life in a box that someone has put you in. You don't need to stay there. You don't need to fit into someones idea for your life. For me it's important to have down time. To create ways of dealing with stress in a healthy way and preferably to have less of it. Also not piling blame on yourself. Often times we need to be kinder to ourselves and in turn we'll be kinder to others.

Life doesn't need to be lived in the fast lane. There is something to be learnt from living life slow. Life to me feels more meaningful this way. In appreciating nature, walks in woods, making things and the satisfaction that brings.

At the moment to combat that I do my best to make time for things that calm me for me this looks like walks, photography, knitting, time spent with good friends, traveling.
That would equal a much happier Carole.

Things to be thankful for

1. Being alive 

2. God/Jesus

3. Wonderful family and friends 

4. New beginnings

5. Music

6. Finding joy in the little things

7. Memories

8. Stories

9. Nature 

10. Dreams and adventures.

On dreams

Some thoughts on dreams..

I’ve come to realise recently that some dreams in our hearts don’t need to be forever.. For me they seem to evolve and grow.. And encourage me to believe that better things are ahead..
They don’t need to stay stagnant. But I know I’ve also been one to let dreams lay dormant.
When you want to see something come to pass but don’t yet have the courage to jump in a the deep end. For me one of those dreams is to have a photography business in family and kids portraits and photo shoots.
Another one is to publish my poems (that is still a work in progress).
There is something powerful in speaking about it even though it’s not yet come to pass
I’m okay with not knowing the how.. That will come in time.

 

Dreams come in a size too big so that we may grow into them.

Josie Bisset

Third year musings

Wow!  I can’t quite believe I’ve had this blog for three whole years now.. Its gone so fast. It started off as a place for me to write my poetry and has grown into a blog both about writing and photography. Its a privilege to be able to write poems which encourage others.To add a bit of sparkle to someone’s day.

It was a good challenge from my now brother-in-law Josh. I’m so glad I took up the challenge. Check out his website here. http://joshfox.org.uk/

I love travelling to new places for the experiences they bring and the sense of adventure. It is also good to go back to familiar places because often I see them differently after being away for a while.

I am constantly inspired by those around me who show such passion for life and adventure. Also by the nature that surrounds me. Even some little flowers clinging to life on an old stone wall.

Beauty speaks to me in so many ways, showing the majesty of God. I stand in awe at ever sunset I have the privilege of seeing.  It helps me keep a fresh perspective on life.. to hold life with open hands and the importance of giving to others. With a smile, a kind word, a poem and through my photography.

Remember a little encouragement can go a long way!

Thanks for joining me on the journey.

– Carole.

Thoughtful..

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
– Maya Angelou

I found this quote today via my friend’s blog http://reigninlove.tumblr.com/

It really made me think about life and how we treat others can have lasting effects that we don’t even realise at the time. Cherish and treasure people in your world today.